Why High Performers Feel Lost (And What to Do About It) | LAING RIKKERS | Ep. 86

Jun 30
2 min read

Why Self-Awareness Matters More Than Working Harder

Many people believe that feeling overwhelmed means they need to become more disciplined. So they work longer hours, push through stress, and try to become more productive. But what if the real problem isn't a lack of effort?

Sometimes the issue isn't how much you're doing. It's whether you're moving in the right direction.

In a recent episode of The Superhuman Blueprint Podcast, host Drew Griesel sat down with Laing Rikkers, a former private equity executive, entrepreneur, author, and leader in executive coaching. Their conversation explored a powerful idea: the difference between overwhelm and misalignment, and why developing self-awareness may be one of the most important skills for long-term success.

At first glance, overwhelm and misalignment can look the same. Both can leave you feeling exhausted, frustrated, and disconnected. The difference is that overwhelm is often a volume problem. Misalignment is a direction problem.

That distinction matters.

Many high achievers assume that if something feels difficult, they simply need to work harder. But effort cannot solve a problem of direction. You can be productive, successful, and still feel like something is missing if your actions are no longer aligned with your values, goals, or purpose.

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One of the most valuable insights from the conversation was the importance of regularly checking where your time and energy are going. True self-awareness requires honest self-reflection. It means stepping back and asking whether the things demanding your attention are actually helping you build the life you want.

Laing shared a question from a coach that stayed with her throughout her career:

"Is this where you want to spend your vital energy?"

It's a simple question, but it can completely change how we approach decision making.

When people stop asking that question, they often drift into careers, responsibilities, and routines that no longer fit. Over time, that can lead to frustration, burnout, and a growing sense that something feels off.

One practical tool Laing discussed was journaling, specifically a practice called morning pages. By writing regularly, people create space to process thoughts, identify patterns, and strengthen their self-awareness. Small moments of reflection often reveal what constant activity hides.

The lesson is simple: before trying to do more, make sure you're headed where you actually want to go. Productivity is valuable, but clarity comes first. The better you understand yourself, the easier it becomes to create a more meaningful life and pursue sustainable personal growth.

To hear the full conversation and explore these ideas in greater depth, listen to the full episode of The Superhuman Blueprint Podcast with Laing Rikkers.